Lesley Fraser - Writer, Coach, Speaker

Do your children push your buttons?

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These photos will explain my absence from this page, my first ever Cohort of Mindful Monkeys® Better Together Practitioners all trained up and ready for their case studies! I'm so proud of them and myself for making 2018 one to remember. ❤️🐒❤️

Ladies, we are an amazing breed and deep in our souls we have the ability to just keep going. This poor mum of four kids has just been shot and still appears in court for a minor parking offence. I love the way the judge listens and hears her whole story - a very heartwarming story on such a windy and cold day.❤️

Being yourself and liking who you see in the mirror can sometimes feel like such a rebellious way to live. Learning to truly love yourself with all your beautiful, messy mistakes means you also need to be ok with others feeling uncomfortable and maybe even choosing to walk away from your friendship. One thing is for sure you’ll attract new high vibe friends who see your beautiful soul in a way the others couldn’t. ❤️🙏🏻❤️

Do you want the best for your friends and family and put yourself last? Do you have so many plates spinning that your not even sure what your intuition is anymore?
If so, then I'm sure some points in this great blog from Beth Bridges will ring true for you. We're trying to do too much with very little time to the detriment of our own wellbeing and it has to change. You are not weak for setting some boundaries - it actually shows great strength to be able to say No to others ...and Yes to yourself.
Every week I talk to women who believe it has to all be on their shoulders and are not even sure how the hell to make those changes. I'm working with a couple of Mums just now and I can see how their lives are being transformed as they grow in confidence and really listen to their own intuition which already knows the way forward. We just have to be still long enough to hear it.
I count myself in that camp at times. I'm a mum, running my own business and support my ageing parents all on my own. I have no significant other to help with anything. I can find myself completely depleted at times and have to regroup and continue to learn how to prioritise my life so I can actually bring some joy into it for myself. I still have old conditioning to work on just like everyone else. I know very few people who consistently put their needs first - yeh we can get it right most of the time but we still need support when you can feel things building up.
So this is your gentle reminder - please look after you. Please seek help if you feel you need it. This isn't self care as in having a bath with candles, it's proper boundary setting at it's core. Delegate if you can and really question what part of your week can either be changed, stopped or someone else do it?
Sending loads of love to you all on this chilly 1st October. ❤️❤️❤️
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We think we have time.......
I've been mega busy over at Mindful Monkeys building a business that will help thousands of families over the next 10 years but it doesn't mean I've lost sight of what's really important to me.
I am lucky enough to still have both my parents alive and well but when you reach your 80s there will always be a certain amount of help needed to keep them in their own home together. Even though I've never been busier in my life, I still feel truly bless...ed to be able to spend time with my Mum & Dad. But I do think this video popping up on my newsfeed today is very timely.
It's a good reminder that we think we have time to mend old wounds, we think we have time to say sorry, we think we have time to sort stuff out but we really don't know what's round the corner. We don't really know whether it will be too late to say what you really want to say before your loved one is not at the end of the phone.
That old cliche that life is too short is so true. I urge you to mend those bridges before it's too late. Is your desire to be right greater than the love you have for that person? Can you even remember the original reason you stopped talking in the first place? And even if you did, it is still relevant to where you are now in your life?
As you will know from this page and my coaching ethos I truly believe in setting boundaries and being true to yourself so perhaps the answer to all this is yes and you're still ok not talking. The choice is always yours.
I'd just hate for you to miss out on some truly special times that might just be around the corner.....
Sending much love to you ❤️
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Major changes going on for a lot of us as we embark on the ninth month of the year and I can feel a change in energy and momentum which brings great opportunities but also of lot of unresolved emotions to work through. We need to do this to allow our progress to be lasting and joyful.
I always believe our outside world fully reflects our inside where our mindset, beliefs and values play out for all to see. Personally, my house had become a mess. After moving in six years ago... I'd done nothing to keep it in the state in which I really wanted to. Now, I know I've had a lot to contend with outside the home like a lot of family ill health and running two businesses but I'd also learned to neglect myself in the process.
I'd always been so proud of all the homes I've lived in but this time it was different. I'd allowed it to become run down and the universe started making things too difficult to ignore. So this year I knew I needed to address my home and the underlying home truths but the work needed didn't start with a paint brush. It started with me working through some major self belief and knowing my own worth.
With the support of my tribe of amazing friends I realised I could have everything I wanted and work didn't have to be hard. And low and behold I was able to address the issues in my home. Today, they are nearly complete and I can begin to rebuild and redecorate and it will be a complete transformation from how it was before.
So what does your outside world say about your inside? What small step can you take today to begin your own transformation?
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😂😂😂 sometimes it takes more than a bath to make you feel better 🙄🤭🤷🏼‍♀️

Are you too busy to have fun? I dare you to watch this and not smile 😀. Looks brilliant 👍🏻. I’m definitely building a ball pit into any future Mindful Monkey’s offices I create lol 😂 🐒

Bottom line we all have stuff to deal with. All of us. So don’t let your sh*t get mixed with other people’s sh*t cause that just produces a whole lot of 💩.
Let your experiences be the fuel that fires you on to become the person you want to be. ❤️🙏🏻❤️

Ladies, this livestream video is nearly 2 years old but boy it is more relevant this weekend that ever! We are experiencing massive shifts in the world's energy and this weekend's super full blood moon is bringing up so much stuff for us to heal! You may be experiencing old family issues rearing their heads again, old wounds being reopened, angry responses to heartfelt communications and things just feeling so out of kilter you wonder if you're loosing your mind. You are not....
This weekend, and tonight in particular, is a great time to let go of all that emotion that is bubbling up. The poem I read out in this video makes me emotional every time I read it. I'm OK with that (as you'll see 😂🤣). I'm no longer ok with suppressing how I really feel and I'm embracing life wholeheartedly. Which means getting OK with being emotional and giving myself permission to really feel my way through life.
My desire for you is exactly the same but in order for us to do that we need to let go of who we think we 'ought' to be, to 'fit in', to conform to the old ways of BEING. Let go of all of that old sh*t tonight during the full moon and be ok when the tears come.
Just like that amazing feeling when the sun comes out after the rain, you'll feels fresher, lighter and full of new opportunities.
Sending so much love, Lesley xxx
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Life isn't all rainbows and unicorns, it's tough at times. I'm just back from a much needed break of two weeks and, as I've not had two weeks off work for over 5 years, boy did I need it. Allowing myself to really stop working and relax after such a long time brings up a hell of a lot of 'stuff' that may have been suppressed for a wee while! 😱🤐
It's not until we really STOP and really LISTEN to ourselves that we can provide the space to think what we actually want to do with ...our lives. What is going to bring us the most joy. As you all know I've been working so hard on Mindful Monkeys Ltd that I've taken my eye off my coaching clients and I've realised I miss it. I miss working really in-depth with people who are ready to change.
Mindful Monkeys Ltd will continue to be my focus for a long time but I'm also not blocking the universe bringing me a couple of premium coaching clients who are ready and willing and want to make that change before the end of 2018.
Surrounding yourself with the right people means you can bounce ideas off each other, you can BE yourself without fear of judgement or failure. Just because I'm keeping my coaching practice open doesn't mean I've failed, the exact bloody opposite! I love coaching, I'm good at it and most importantly my clients get the shift in their own lives that they so desperately want.
I fully understand the value of sisterhood, of the divine feminine energy that is in all of us and I also understand how this has to marry up with our masculine. Of the need for systems and the practicalities of life. My coaching helps you bring both into alignment in your own life.
I'm sitting here doing the dreaded accounts and I bloody hate it - with a passion!!! Like really hate it. But, as with every previous year, once they are done I'll feel a little bit more complete, a little bit more grown up 😂 and I have a brilliant accountant who 'gets me'. He understands what I'm aiming for and never judges me - he doesn't know it but he's definitely part of my tribe!
So make sure you are surrounded by people who hold you up, who listen without judgement and who you can really BE yourself around.
Then who knows what you might achieve? Sending much love,
Lesley xxx
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WOW it's 3 weeks since I last posted on this page! I've not disappeared off the face of the earth but I've also not 'conformed' to the old marketing shenanigans of posting regular content. Goodness me how naughty of me! I don't believe for one minute of posting rubbish that doesn't come from a genuine desire to connect with you and share stuff that helps me grow.
I've not gone anywhere other than working deeply in the background. Allowing myself to let go of a lot of old cond...itioning and creating space for a new level of self belief and awareness to unfold. We cannot create a new level of conscious living by using old systems and beliefs that are effectively hold us in an old space and time.
But wait a minute, I've still got a life to run, businesses to tick over, parents and a child to support - how the hell can you do all that? Well you get the right support for yourself making sure when the dark days come you're not on your own. You don't beat yourself up that your not running full speed ahead all the time and you give yourself permission. Permission to let go and free up space. Permission for things to be different. And release yourself physically, energetically and metaphorically from all is keeping you stuck where you no longer want to be.
Are you ready to give yourself permission? Do you have the right support in place?
Sending loads of love your way, Lesley xxx
#letgo #releaseyourself #giveyourselfpermission #lifecoaching #limitlessliving
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Who's feeling pretty drained right now? I know I am. There are some pretty intense energies around, pushing people's buttons resulting in arguments, family rows, old 'stuff' resurfacing for you to heal. All of which can feel so intense. We're moving through a very interesting period on this planet and what I know to be true is we have to look after ourselves first and foremost.
My personal lesson this year is self compassion and leading and inspiring others to do the same. I... find this such a struggle at times as I've always been such a people pleaser and put others needs well before mine.
But this has to change and I want it to. I cannot go on to grow my business if I'm knackered all the time! I can't help or reach the people that need support if I'm hiding under my duvet!
So please take the time if you feel emotionally overloaded right now. Take time to slow down. Get outside for a walk, practice being more mindful in your life and bring your attention back to the present moment. Eat food that is full good nutrients, listen to music that reconnects you to a place and time you love. Practice gratitude and replenish your soul with things that make you smile. It's essential, it's not a nice to have or 'aye I'll get round to that eventually' kinda thing.
It's a must.
Be kind to yourself. (that's an order!) 😂❤️
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