A Child Of Mine - Supporting Bereaved Parents

We are having an open day on 15th September at the Littleton Arms in Penkridge from 12.30pm. If you have ever wanted to know more about what we do, and how you could get involved; this will be a fantastic opportunity to meet our team and see how you could help. 😁

We’ve had a fabulous afternoon at our Sunshine and Rainbows BBQ today. Thank you to everyone who came along and to our fabulous chefs Nick, Gra & co you were amazing 😉🍗🌭🍺

Please come along and say hi to us on Bank Holiday Monday at the Wendyhouse Bowling Club in Donnington, Telford for a great family fun day. In Memory of Kyle Beddoes, there will be lots going on and all profits are for ACOM and Hope House :)

***Sunday 12th August ***
Are you looking for a fun filled family day out? Then look no further and come along to a family fun day at Kingswood Staffordshire - a fantastic adventure centre near Albrighton, Wolverhampton.
Bring the whole family and try the host of outdoor adventures like quad biking, abseiling, zip wire and a 40ft climbing tower, plus many more! Live DJ and craft stalls to browse.
... Remember to wear casual clothes and bring long sleeves for the activities. Buffet lunch and raffle available at a small charge.
Location: Kingswood - Staffordshire Barn Lane, nr Albrighton, Wolverhampton, WV7 3AW
Admission: Adults (16+) £5 Children (6-15) £3 Under 6 and oap's FREE Group tickets (2 adults 2 children) £12 Your ticket includes free parking and full day of activities.
All profits are going to ACOM and Young Minds 😀
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The #PedallingProf has done it! Well done Pam 175 miles in one day done! Morecambe to Bridlington #incrediblechallenge for CRUK and ACOM. Truly proud of our Professor Pam. Xx
https://www.justgiving.com/fundraising/pa mela-kearns3

ACOM's lovely trustee and also Lewis' consultant, is taking on an incredible challenge for the charity tomorrow! She will be cycling 175 miles in 1 day!! The route takes in 7850 feet of climbing across the hills of Lancashire and Yorkshire.
Staring at dawn, Pam will set off from Morecambe, and follow the Way of the Roses route to get to Bridlington before the sun goes down!!
She has never cycled more than 100 miles in one go but we have no doubt she will smash it, and I am... absolutely sure a certain little angel will be helping her along the route 😊
Pam has been a real advocate and invaluable member of team ACOM from the start, and it would be great if you could support her and help motivate her to complete this amazing challenge.
#PeddalingProf
https://www.justgiving.com/fundraising/pa mela-kearns3
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We are very excited to announce the launch of a new group for miscarriage/early pregnancy loss!
Our first group will be on 2nd October in Newcastle under Lyme and we would love you to join us and meet others who understand.
We are also hoping to set up another group in Stafford very soon.
... Please share away :)
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Our Star Cafe is on in the morning at Cannock and there will be cake! 😁 look forward to seeing you.

We made it!
21 troopers, 1,345 meteres, 1 goal.
Despite the weather not being onside these 20 Superstars tackled their way up (and down!) and battled all of the elements. We had wind, we had rain, we saw snow and even a dashing of sunshine!
... From mountain climber to those who’ve never climbed a mountain before, we all summited safely and we couldn’t be prouder.
A truly fantastic achievement and a pleasure to see.
Thank you to ThisIsFitness and all the team for supporting ACOM in this challenge and raising £1700 for the charity, amazing!!
Great work all.
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Guys could you please all go and like this picture to help one of our wonderful moms get funding for an early pregnancy loss support group in the stoke on Trent area! So very needed ❤️

Thank you to everyone who came and supported our Summer Ball last night! It was an amazing evening and £8000 raised for the charity!! Thank you.

Excited for our Summer Ball tonight!!! I think you’ll agree the room looks amazing! 😉 #acomsummerball

We hope you can join us at what promises to be a fantastic fun family day!! All profits to ACOM and Young Minds.

We are getting ready for a charity gospel choir concert here at the Bridge Centre in Stoke. Starts at 6.30pm tickets only £6 please do come down if your free! From the rehearsals it’s going to be amazing! All proceeds to A Child Of Mine.

Stoke City FC have very kindly donated a signed premier league macron shirt for our summer ball next week. It is signed by the first team squad, is framed and comes with certificate of authenticity. You can make a bid on this shirt by contacting Gayle by email hello@achildofmine.org.uk

Look what’s arrived at ACOM HQ this morning!! Thank you so much to Lorraine Stanley for organising this for our live auction at our Summer Ball next week! It's amazing!

I’m the lady with the dead child.
It’s okay, I’m allowed to be so blunt because it’s my truth. I am the lady whose child died. One day my baby was living and the next day they died. That is what happened. It doesn’t offend me if you acknowledge this. It offends me when you don’t.
You see, I know that my child died. I will not forget this. So, when you whisper about it like it’s a secret that feels shameful. It makes me feel like you’re embarrassed for me. I’m not embarr...assed about my child and I’m not embarrassed that they died. I’m sad that they died. It’s different.
I am allowed to be sad that my child died. Please stop trying to cheer me up. When you respond by trying to cheer me up, it feels dismissive. Being supportive does not mean making me happy, it means sticking around even when I’m not. When you honor my emotions, you honor my child.
When I say my child’s name and you not-so-subtly change the subject, you are not doing so to “protect me.” You are avoiding the subject of my child because you are uncomfortable. If you were talking about your own loved one and I stopped meeting your gaze or frantically switched topics, you would be upset with me. Same.
My child is not an awkward topic. They are a person. They were my child. I am not awkward about that, so why are you?
Please understand, I believe that when you do these things it is with the best intentions, but I need you to know that your intentions have a painful impact. So, while you get to stroll away with your good intentions, I am left with the hurtful impact you left behind.
I may be the lady whose child died but you can still talk to me like you did when I was the lady who was going to have a baby. You can still say their name and let me know that you care about them. You can still ask me how I’m doing and wait around to hear my answer.
Please don’t ignore my truth, especially when I am so strongly committed to sharing it. I have not made my child’s death a secret, so I don’t need your help in hiding them. That’s where the struggle comes from. I have to keep talking about them and saying their name because they can’t. I can’t stop because then they will disappear.
I know you want to change what happened to me. But, you can’t. I will always be the lady whose child died. I will always be the woman who is living without her child. I am okay talking about that. Are you?
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