Relationship Counselling Therapy Kenilworth

Relationship issues…

“Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option. ”

Call Stuart: 07825 599340 /01926 910031

Relationships are the testing ground , the ultimate proof of our ability to love ourselves. The bright and sometimes harsh searchlight of love will bring to the surface anything in ourselves that we have not loved .
That is why relationships afford the greatest opportunities for us to learn to stay centered in our love for ourselves. Only by loving ourselves, can we really love others .
Until you learn to love yourself, you will always be demanding from others what you have not given yourself. Love then becomes need , not a celebration .
In every human being resides the needs for closeness and independence. We have deep urges to merge with another person, and we have equally strong urges to develop ourselves completely as separate beings. Ideally we would surrender ourselves fully to union with others at the same time that we explore and express our own full potential. Often it is not so easy , many of us are blocked in one or the other of the two dimensions, sometimes both. We may not allow ourselves to get close, but we may not allow our selves to be independent, either . We end up locking ourselves in a intermediary zone, a psychological purgatory , neither in union or autonomous.
Often closeness in a relationship will bring fear to the surface and the affected partner attempts to control the relationship to keep from being abandoned. Another trait used is invalidation, if the partner is wrong or invalidated , abandonment will not seem such an issue but will reinforce beliefs and insecurities.
Learning to love yourself , in the passion and friction of close relationships
Life changes, and so can you!
Call Stuart: + 44 7825 599340 / 0121 403 3163
stuart@stuartdowning. co. uk
www. stuartdowning. co. uk